I feel like you either fear and/or despise generative AI, or you think it’s the best thing since sliced bread.

There seems to be very little in-between.

It’s an ideal that’s only achievable when you’re able to set your own priorities.

Managers and executives generally don’t give two shits about yak shaving.

Tip #1: if you’re gonna post your programming blog to social media, make sure it can handle the traffic…?

Don’t show them this, it’ll shatter their reality

Raise your hand if you think laying off employees en-masse right before an earnings call should be a crime punishable by death:

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^(Only somewhat kidding.)

Seriously though, this is is even extremely misleading to shareholders. It’s blatant manipulation of the numbers, how is it not illegal?

I’m a simple man. I see a Stargate reference, I upvote.

Ffs, are the Danish getting uppity again? It’s been a quiet few hundred years

I’m no lawyer but I think drilling into someone’s head without permission might still count as assault.

In all fairness, I think it was a joke.

Jfc, having the girl in the room at all is a liability, let alone letting her touch the patient.

I hope this guy’s malpractice lawyer has good heart meds.

Here it is, folks, case in fucking point.

Did I ask, at any point, for opinions on how I should be feeling about any of this? I don’t think so.

In all fairness, she was pretty patient with me for a bit, but as I alluded to, I attempted to apply small course corrections when I should have tried a different course entirely. In reality, this was the cumulative effect of multiple different occasions.

See, my dumb ass didn’t think it was an issue with what I was saying, but how I was saying it. So I figured it was just a matter of trying to be more tactful with my suggestions. Obviously, that wasn’t it.

Sure, she could have been more mature and introspective about it, but so could I. So it’s kind of a wash.

I can’t really blame her because of the shit she was going through. There’s a bit more context that I don’t really want to get into on a public forum, but in hindsight her reaction is understandable.

Kinda hard not to blame myself when it was ultimately my fuck up, however. I’m still dealing with that over 4 years later.

Well, kind of the exact opposite of that. I realize that’s meant to be satire, but that kind of attitude is what got me into trouble.

I left out the exact details for brevity and privacy, but it was a situation where there wasn’t a simple answer. I just didn’t have a good grasp of the concept of active listening.

I was trying to engage with what she was saying, because she had previously told me that it seemed like I didn’t care about her problems. But I just wasn’t saying the right things.

In reality, my previous approach had revolved around keeping my mouth shut because then there was no way I could say anything to fuck it up. But then, in large part thanks to my undiagnosed ADHD, I would tune out without realizing it.

So I engaged in the only way I knew how, by trying to rationalize her experiences when I should have been empathizing with them.

Here’s another thing that I was just reminded of in this very thread, lmfao:

Men are expected to accept unsolicited advice at face value when they want to vent, because we’re supposed to be the ones with all the answers, and if a man is complaining about a problem, then he’s obviously just missing the answer.

This actually blew up my last relationship, right at the beginning of the pandemic, when my girlfriend at the time was stressed from being laid off and we weren’t able to see each other due to the isolation orders.

She would try to vent to me about her problems, looking for support in a time of emotional vulnerability, and I, an inexperienced idiot just trying to be helpful, would suggest solutions that I thought she hadn’t considered. If you can’t guess exactly how that went, you’ve almost certainly never been in a serious relationship.

What made it worse is she would then say to stop mansplaining, which made me defensive because I thought she was tacitly accusing me of being intentionally misogynistic when I was honestly just trying to be helpful. At the time, I figured I just needed to adjust my approach a little bit, not completely change course. Unsurprisingly, that didn’t work.

It was only in hindsight, some time after she had dumped my dumb ass, and I had blocked and deleted her number, that I was complaining to my friends and getting the exact same kind of thing back that I realized, “oh wow, I get it now, that is actually really fucking annoying and invalidating.”

It was also around this time, while discussing my experiences with friends who have been diagnosed, that I realized that I might have ADHD. So that definitely hadn’t helped.

In the extremely unlikely event you’re reading this, K, I’m sorry. I figured out what I did wrong, just a little too late.

Yes, thank you, I never would have figured that out without your brilliant insight.

Unfortunately, because of the aforementioned probationary period at the start of any conversation, it can take some time before it becomes clear that the other person just isn’t that interested.

Can I still be annoyed at my time and effort being wasted? Or is it just my fault for being a man on a dating app?

Exactly.

Oh yeah, I’ve seen the other side of things through female friends. They generally have the opposite problem as men.

I’d heard about guys doing stupid shit on dating apps like sending unsolicited dick pics or just going straight for sexual stuff and figured it was maybe a “yeah it happens once in a while” kinda thing, because I’d personally never do something like that. But in fact it seems like a large portion of the interactions are just that bad.

So I can understand not putting in a lot of effort initially. Starting with small talk and making sure it’s not a waste of your time. I do the exact same thing.

But even after it feels like I’ve started to establish a rapport with someone, the conversation still can feel incredibly one-sided. It’s like, okay, at this point you’re just kinda being disrespectful. And it happens over and over again.

As a guy who’s trying dating again, there’s something that keeps coming up that kinda bugs me: talking to women who just put in the bare minimum of effort, expect me to carry the conversation and make all the first moves.

I don’t give two shits about traditional gender roles and I’m all about subverting them. However, I think if you’re in the same boat but still wanna call yourself a “passenger princess” and expect the guy to do everything, you’re kind of a hypocrite.

Yes thank you, SatansMaggotyCumFart, I’m aware of that.

I’d recognize a CZ-75 anywhere. Only pistol I’ve ever held that actually felt good in my hands.

If I had a proper gun safe I’d totally get one, but I live in a second floor apartment and I’m not lugging that up the stairs.