• eldavi@lemmy.ml
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    7 hours ago

    i think that you have to make happiness and its ingredients depends on what makes you happy & healthy.

    it ends up becoming a bit like brewing beer in that you keep testing different combinations and different methods with those ingredients to brew your beer and sometimes you get it right and sometimes you don’t; but the more you keep at it the more often you get it right than wrong.

    at some point you start getting excited at the prospect of trying some new combination, method, or ingredient and i think that, if you reach that stage, it’ll become self fulfilling.

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    4 hours ago

    Recognizing how my desires are never truly satisfied, and they cause me suffering. How they constantly shift and always want more. In other words I let go of my judgment and accept what I see. That doesn’t mean I don’t judge it at all or don’t change it. It just means I’m not attached to the desire to change things. It’s just a feeling, and I can act on it, but it’s a conscious decision rather than a habit.

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    18 hours ago

    smells are effervescent and seem to be very impactful… anecdotal evidence only

  • AwkwardLookMonkeyPuppet@lemmy.world
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    16 hours ago

    Happiness is fleeting. Sometimes you’re happy, sometimes you’re not. I was told as a young man that what I should seek instead is contentment, because someone content with their place in life will be happier more often. That said, a lot of people find satisfaction and happiness from helping others. Volunteering, and being a part of your community gives someone a sense of belonging, and purpose.

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    10 hours ago

    It’s either drugs or not having a shitty childhood, unfortunately I’m the wrong person to ask

  • Lenny@lemmy.world
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    Outdoor hobbies. I’ve got really into foraging, which has multiple benefits, I get to be outside, I get exercise, I learn new things which stimulates my brain, and if I’m lucky I also get free food (which is usually superior in taste and nutrition to store bought). I combine it with hiking, fishing, geocaching etc and if I’m alone I sometimes listen to music on my headphones. Once you start developing outdoor hobbies it’s like you unlock an insanely intricate open world video game.

    I just recently quit my job and it’s got me thinking about app development around this idea.

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    18 hours ago

    Good friends, core friends. Good memories. Doing good things, helping. Toss in a cup of stability and a couple hobbies. If you’re practicing or just recently discovered practicing adhd, another dozen hobbies and a therapist/counselor.

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        18 hours ago

        No real difference, all groups are different in their own way. The core group, the group around that core. Some say best friends.

  • OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml
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    18 hours ago

    I just bought a skateboard and I’m going to head to the skate park, alone. So I would say one tip (of many) is don’t limit yourself to social stigmas and have fun!

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    18 hours ago

    A few years ago, my wife and I left the Mormon church. That helped a lot. Along that line coffee makes me happy.

  • ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆@lemmy.ml
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    10 hours ago

    For me it’s about pursuing hobbies and having new experiences. I really enjoy developing new skills and seeing myself improve, and doing things I haven’t done before.

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    19 hours ago

    Small things. Sounds. The temperature of the air. The fact that my side isn’t hurting right now. The kids costumes who were just trick or treating at my house.

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      18 hours ago

      I really love seeing a well curated list, and that’s a well curated list.

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      still on the topic of small things that bring happiness: coffee in the morning, listening the air on the trees, the birds, nature in general, food (good food, not processed, made by you) good friends, good talks, walks.