It looks like an oddly worded way to ask a question to straight people. I think the first part of the title would work better as something like “Straight identifying people, have you ever…” or the question could have been asked more generally like “have you ever had a sexual experience that didn’t match with your sexual identity? How did it go?”

A workaround for you: upvote twice (ie upvote and remove the upvote) to get the post marked as read.

There have been meta discussions on this topic and there really isn’t a clear answer. It quickly devolves into “how do you define NSFW”. And there are good arguments for a broad variety of answers there.

Looking at OP’s particular kink as an example, one argument is that, even though you’re showing completely clothed people, you probably shouldn’t be showing pictures of sexy girls wearing watches on your work computer. It isn’t porn, but I think your coworkers would quickly see that you are getting a sexual kick out of it regardless. on the other hand, most people consider this a porn instance. There are a lot of things that aren’t safe for work that really don’t fit with what most people consider the purpose of this instance (porn).

As I recall, the instance doesn’t prohibit SFW content. It’s just that people here aren’t looking for SFW content and a lot of them are going to downvote SFW content because they don’t want to see it. The instance could try to tell people not to downvote these posts, but that’s not going to do much to change behavior. While some people do follow such guidelines, most aren’t going to follow upvote/downvote guidelines and are going to vote as they wish.

OP is in the process of “discovering” eugenics. Good times.

OP, first thing is terminology. Yes, cosmo and the like have referred to the prostate as “the male g-spot”, but you’re better off using accurate terminology. You are looking for a “prostate massager”, “prostate toy”, or “prostate wand”. You’ll have an easier time finding products if you use those terms.

Edited and she’s wearing butt pads.

Director: “No, not like that! We need to see your tongues!”

actors proceed to stick out their tongues and flick together

Director: “Yes, perfect!”

Me: … bye.

This is nothing new fighting pedophilia and human trafficking are the smokescreen used to enact most laws controlling the internet.

Edit to fill in what I’m implying: these laws (eg FOSTA-SESTA) are either ineffective or counterproductive in their stated goal, while simultaneously having broad add-on effects, generally harming free speech.

FOSTA-SESTA makes sex work less safe for those who are not trafficked. Meanwhile it pushes actual traffickers “underground” and off the internet, making it much harder for law enforcement to find and successfully prosecute them. Bonus: the law has been used to push sex education and general discussion of sex and sexuality off of major websites.

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Another older fart here. As others have said, you look good! Wearing it a few times to get used to it is a great tip.

Especially since they are inexpensive clothes, if you need to clean them, wash and dry them carefully. Dunno your setup, but make sure the washer is set to cold or the low side of warm. Dry medium and don’t over dry. If the washer and dryer have a “permanent press” setting, that should work ok. Immediately hang them; don’t let them sit in the dryer.

Yeah… that’ll show us…

It looks like OP is just copy-pasting from the source title (which sounds like an Amazon listing). OP, it would be cool if you could… not use those titles :)

Yes, “Nitrile Rubber”, not to be confused with natural/latex rubber, butyl rubber, etc.

Nitrile is the standard material for latex-free exam gloves.

I’m a fan of nitrile. Silicone is easy to fit because it tends to have a lot of stretch, but I find it also tends to pinch a bit because of that stretch. Nitrile is still relatively soft and has some stretch, but quite a bit less than silicone. Less stretch means you need to buy the right size, but they are inexpensive and you can get multipacks to figure out what size you need.

I’m curious what you found. I only found one - the alien stroker - it looks like it could be 100% silicone, but noticeably the description doesn’t clarify whether it is a blend or not. And there are 0 reviews.

FYI, if it is 100% silicone, you can boil it to clean it. If it is a blend (or not silicone at all), boiling should fuck it up.

I have looked for the same in the past but didn’t buy because after researching it didn’t sound like a silicone stroker would work well. From what I saw, silicone is just not stretchy/soft enough. Because of this a 100% silicone product is not going work well unless you can get one that is the exact right size for your dick.

I didn’t look further to see if I could find anyone making silicone strokers in a variety of diameters - I suppose that could be a solution.

If you do find something that claims to be soft, stretchy, and silicone, you should do some digging to see if the mfg is trustworthy.

All that said, if anyone has a 100% silicone stroker that does work, I’d love to hear from them!

I got tricked by this when I started on lemmy: You probably have “show read” unchecked in your user settings. Unfortunately, this setting applies for your own posts, so as soon as you view it, it disappears from the feed for you, even when browsing the community.

To add to the dating advice: try not to approach dating from the angle of “needing” to find a partner. While you should be putting your best self forward, you don’t want to try to win a girl over by acting like someone you’re not because you think she wants someone different than you. Your goal should be to meet someone who likes who you are and that you enjoy spending time with.

So yes, get some exercise! Better yourself! Try to find things you enjoy doing that make you a better person! But don’t try to become someone different than you. You will meet people that aren’t into you. You will meet people that you aren’t into. That’s totally ok and normal. It’s part of the dating process to figure out whether you two click or if you should move on and find someone else.

Not that I’d call them active, but here are the ones I’ve seen (hopefully I do the link formatting right…)

!wetting@lemmynsfw.com

!pissing@lemmynsfw.com

!pissdrinking@lemmynsfw.com

Thanks Mikey and the rest of the admins.

I have a small suggestion: number the rules on the sidebar. For me (iOS safari and iOS voyager), the rules show up as bullets. If they were numbered, when someone refers to a “rule #” violation, I wouldn’t have to count the rules to figure out which one was being violated.

Yeah, I’m that lazy.