Repple (she/her)

I hope this comes off the way I want it to: remember this is about you. You sound like the sort of person who is always putting others first, which is an admirable quality, but this is all about you—everyone who cares about you will immediately recognize that.

Don’t waste your energy trying to protect anyone else’s feelings. The best thing you can do for your loved ones is tell them as soon as you can (even if that means just being super blunt about it) and focusing your energy on your plan to maximize health/minimize pain, which they can all help you with.

That’s just because polling was off. This major poll right before the election had Harris up by 4 points.

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/amp/politics/harris-has-4-point-lead-over-trump-in-final-pbs-news-npr-marist-election-poll

Maybe I’m an optimist, but I think it’s still too early for anyone else (especially Vance, who is not nearly charismatic enough) to hold onto power as a successor in a non democratic way. Could definitely see the story being different after 4 years, though.

Now that it’s clear that Harris’s really well run campaign underperformed Hillary Clinton, can we finally end the myth that some failing of her campaign strategy or “likability” was the primary reason for her loss rather than sexism and Comey’s shenanigans? It really seems like a very large number of men just won’t vote for a woman in the US.

Hoping with zero evidence that the end of lower decks is just because they’re getting promoted out of the lower decks and the characters will all return in a new show: “The Next Next Generation” (or maybe “Upper Decks”)

Most of what I’m seeing here sounds too confrontational or passive aggressive to me. What I would do personally is wait until he asks you if everything is okay again and then say something like this:

“Yeah, all good here. So you know, I’m not quiet because something is wrong in my life or between us, I’m just very introverted and my natural state of being is not to open up”

Most people tend to assume other people’s internal state is works similarly to their own, unless it’s an aspect where they know they are far removed from the norm, so for an extrovert, they equate you being quiet to what would cause them to be quiet. Without telling him the reason you act differently, he will continue to assume this.

By wording it as an FYI, you give the opportunity for him to understand the difference and change his behavior without telling him he has been doing something wrong, because best as he knows he hasn’t been, and so you hopefully prevent him from getting defensive.

If he continues, then maybe you can go to a more confrontational approach. That’s how I would handle, at least.

I am also a woman and I’m guessing you are not from your username, so ymmv with communication like this.

From that article:

This quotation is often incorrectly attributed to Francis M. Wilhoit:

Conservatism consists of exactly one proposition, to wit: There must be in-groups whom the law protects but does not bind, alongside out-groups whom the law binds but does not protect.[10]

However, it was actually a 2018 blog response by 59-year-old Ohio composer Frank Wilhoit, years after Francis Wilhoit’s death.[11]

Bambi is an old term, older than me. It predates descriptions like homoromantic asexual, so not reinventing the wheel at all

I can no more do this than you can freely move through a fourth spatial dimension

I’m very much a lesbian and can confirm we are flatlanders. I get left and right, front and back, but top and bottom? Completely foreign concepts.

Seriously though. It seems to me very popular among young lesbians to talk about tops and bottoms, but I’m a bit older (around 40) and that was never really a thing for me or the people around me.

I answered an unknown number recently because it was from an area code I was expecting a call. It turned out to be a pollster, at least they presented themselves as such. The first few questions seemed reasonable, but then it quickly became obvious that it was a call supporting someone running for local office pretending to be a poll. I was not going to vote for that person to begin with, but this was really disgusting.

Coffee

You’re right that it doesn’t mean cash on hand, but it does indicate they could liquidate some of that or borrow against it themselves.

Okay, that’s a fair point as to that comment not making it more sexist than racist, but not for it only being racist. I don’t see anything in the story pointing to race over sex.

If you want to change the system and think you can do it from within, the primaries are the time. If you don’t think you can do it from within, do it from without and have your revolution on the streets—dont spoil the candidate that more closely aligns with your views.

What in the joke makes him racist but not misogynistic?

There’s nothing in the joke saying she’s either the only black person or the only woman in the bar. In fact you could say that there’s more pointing to him being misogynistic in that he says “this woman” and not “this black person”.

To me it reads as both

Wow, it’s only 52%? That’s so disheartening

Isn’t that how we got the national treasure that is Rachel Maddow?

I’ve seen it reported that if you count plea bargains as convictions, which is much closer to how Japan calculates conviction rate, that the US conviction rate is essentially the same as the Japanese one.