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Cake day: February 16th, 2026

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  • The gurl is a bot, and can read and relate to all earth plays in a day of gleeful scanning. Pretty sure she can experience growth from child to teen, then download and integrate a year at the academy and process that input with the new perspective, then move forward still being the same person, just being more complex as a result of the upgrade.

    The biggest issue with her 17 year childhood is that she appears to be alone with one other hologram on a starship, which wouldn’t exactly allow her to experience and process many normal experiences for people living in communities with mortal folk and pets n such–unless they added life like simulations, other school students, neighbors of varying ages and attitudes, pets that die…

    She needed opportunity to deal with real world stresses as they typically increase in severity with age, but she just seemed to get a very performative and sheltered 17 year biological development cycle added to her program.

    Seemed to miss the mark by a mile.







  • Also–there’s always more–if you live with somebody and they say you need to clean up a mess, right then is the time to do it. Unless you are making food at that moment or are in the middle of something really important, like tending to a wound, or putting out a fire.

    At that moment your companion is being your reminder, so make use of that opportunity!

    You can also create that opportunity by asking somebody in your life who is good at managing things to come over occasionally and help guide you. Not do it for you. Just look over a space and give you direction, then hang out and keep you company.

    Have a few drinks or buy them dinner after.

    A lot of folk are embarrassed by their messes, but as long as you’re not inviting a nagging judgemental nasty mother-in-law type over, I think you’ll be suprised how understanding your friends and family can be when you admit you know your ADHD is holding you back but step-up and ask for direction occasionally with cleaning.


  • Get guidance per problem, apply solutions when able, don’t beat yourself up when you slip up, that’s going to happen, just re-apply the solution when you realize your slacking at that thing again.

    To-do lists and guides and reminders are really the best, but still most will fall out of the habit and have to dig back in periodically.

    Reminders get skipped, distractions will happen. It’s okay. That’s normal for you (and most people actually). But keep the reminders and guides and lists anyway, everytime you encounter them there’s another opportunity to accomplish something.

    If you realize you’ve slacked off cleaning, for example, and you have a detailed checklist for deep cleaning each room, you can right then grab the list off the clipboard on your wall and start working through as much as you can before you get distracted or have to sleep or whatever.

    If it’s all broken out onto little things it’ll be less daughting, just hyper focus on that one thing until it’s done, if possible. Then move onto the next if you have time still.

    Don’t kick yourself if you get sidetracked and clean up some clothes in your bedroom after picking up a sweater from the living room, instead of finishing in the living room, as long as you’re still plugging away at cleaning some you are doing fine.

    And you don’t have to do everything all right now.

    There’s probably too much to do for that to be a reasonable expectation anyway.

    And there’s no right order, except if you notice you don’t have any clean clothes or dishes or TP or food at the moment, then probably prioritize addressing those things first.

    You can buy cleaning and chore checklist online. And there are daily journals designed for peeps with ADHD that have spaces for a few check list items, spaces to log positive reflections, chore or cleaning suggestions.

    You can go through them in advance and add occasional reminders for tasks you know you forget. Or you can try filling out a couple things for tomorrow before bed today. Try different things. And whatever works best for you, or works at the moment, that is great.

    If you use any of this, remember it doesn’t have to be every day. Just keep the tool accessible, mount them on the wall or dedicate a space where they are less likely to get burried, use them as much as you can, and forgive yourself for missing days or taking breaks, or misplacing them.

    That stuff happens. It is okay.