I kind of miss the full profiles thing, but match group largely killed them.

Dinners and movies are pretty bad for early dates. You go to a bar or coffee or something where you talk and can bail on short notice. If you like them, you can do more.

There’s no structure there, so how do you get that serendipity?

I don’t think I follow what you mean. Structure?

You see a profile that looks passably interesting. You send a message. If they’re feeling it, they reply. You go out. Once you meet up you’re in normal-dating-land, and the online stuff doesn’t matter as much.

yeah, clearly a random stranger on the internet knows more about my own life and my own life experiences than I do.

You sound absolutely delusional, so, yeah maybe.

It’s the same story in any major USA coastal city.

I don’t know what city you’re in, but the median income in NYC is like $85k and there is a wide range of people here.

I make 150K a year, own a modest condo, and I am considered ‘poor’ because the expected income for a desirable man is 300-500K a year.

Don’t try to date the kind of person who expects $400k/year? In all my years of dating I don’t think I’ve ever met someone with that expectation, and that’s probably for the best.

“The man hating is over the top for me,” another user responded

Lol. Big lol.

I say this as a man who doesn’t date men. Get over yourself. It’s not about you. Or if it is, then it’s working.

The attractive people involved are already coupled.

It is also extremely implausible that this is 100% true. Unless you were going to events that select for couples, you’re going to find a mix of relationship states.

physical fitness has nothing to do with attractiveness. lots of unattractive people are super fit, and lots of attractive people are unfit.

People generally find healthiness attractive. Fitness is correlated with healthiness, and this somewhat correlated with attractiveness. Tastes differ. But generally, people are not going to find “can’t run up the stairs without wheezing” more attractive than “can run”

I live in a city full of wealthy entitled people, who think they are superior to others by birthright and what college they went to, and who won’t talk to you if you don’t work for a fortune 500 company.

Very few cities are so homogeneous. Don’t dox yourself but what do you feel comfortable sharing about what city this is? I find it extremely unlikely that the entire city is full of people who only talk to fortune 500 people. Do all the wait staff and service workers exist in silence and depart the city at dusk?

Sounds like you’re putting up barriers blocking your own success, mostly.

I’ve never met an attractive woman in any meetup, sports even, hobby, or volunteering thing I have ever done.

This sounds extremely implausible. Those activities should have a wide, fairly random, selection of attractiveness. Sports might favor people more physically fit, which is positively correlated with common ideas of attractiveness.

Maybe you’re using some non-standard or idiosyncratic standard of attractive?

I get absolutely nothing except the occasional random weirdo woman who approaches me at a bar and starts telling me what stupid jerk I am for reading books or having a cat

On the other hand, maybe you live in hell?

This is the best answer.

The receptionist really doesn’t care. You’re one of dozens of people they see every day. They’re not going to remember or care if you ask for help.

I feel like if you’re not going to use an app, you should focus on real life. Join meetups. Join a local sports team. Posting on a forum isn’t going to be more effective than that.

It’s hard to make a full judgment without knowing more details but “the pay is good and it’s easy” isn’t really a compelling justification for “and I help evil manifest in the world”.

I knew a guy who went to work for palantir a bunch of years ago. Was always friendly at work. I asked him “but what’re you going to do if they do bad stuff, like spying on people?”

He just shrugged. Didn’t care. The money was good.

I don’t know if this alone is proof that’s a bad person, but I think it precludes him from being a good one.

Do you think they’re intentionally trying to weaken the US, or just stupid?

I saw batboy in Brooklyn and it was a great show.

I don’t see a reason not to teach more about personal finance. How interest works. Consequences for missing payments. I knew a guy that when he was 18 just maxed out several credit cards to buy fun stuff. He got out of that hole eventually, but it was a rough couple years.

I think there’s an underlying problem that I don’t know if you can just teach people, but I think people need to be better at delayed gratification and thinking about consequences. Like that old friend of mine, even if he knew that the credit card debt was going to be more expensive long term, he wanted the tv and stereo now. I don’t know if you can teach that.

And, even if you could, it’s fucked up that people who are poor through little fault of their own are told to just live with less, while people born into wealth can squander it.

So, at the end of this tangent, we should have mechanisms so the floor is high enough people can still have a decent life, and the ceiling is low enough that no one has four mansions.

The legislation seeks to amend existing immigration law to bar entry and naturalization, as well as create new grounds for deportation for anyone linked to what it describes as “totalitarian” parties, both foreign and domestic.

Trumpism is pretty “totalitarian”. I wouldn’t be that upset if all the magas got removed from power, and the irony of their own law being used to do it would be delicious.

That humor aside, this is a terrible idea that should be grounds for Roy’s immediate removal from office.

Conservatives don’t care about being correct or consistent. They say things for effect. They follow their feelings. Something inside them is broken and ruined. They project constantly onto others, because introspection would shatter their flimsy ego.

Also doing my part. Fuck Microsoft. It would have been a harder choice if Windows was, like, fast, stable, and efficient. But it’s not. It’s jank and AI slop. Fuck them.

It’s hubris and/or abuse, and should be illegal barring exceptional circumstances.

Public schools should be well funded.

Private schools should also be illegal.

Do the other ones have forums? I don’t remember even seeing them.

Is the steam forum supposed to be moderated by valve or the developer? I always assumed the developer.

I did some webdriver stuff for reasons I don’t remember anymore.

I also made a simple Django app to track job applications.

Unsolicited advice:

• use type annotations. You’ll thank yourself later when your IDE tells you “hey this can be None are you sure you want to call .some_func() on it?”
• use an ide. Don’t just raw dog it in notepad. You should have syntax highlighting, red squiggles for errors, the ability to go to definition.
• learn to use a debugger. Pdb is built in and fine.
• don’t write mega functions that do a thousand things. Split things up into smaller steps.
• avoid side effects. You don’t want your “say_hello” function to also turn on the lights

Mixed. I find new artists I like somewhat frequently, but genre-wise I don’t often go that far.

I don’t really relate to “I listen to all kinds of music! A hundred new songs a day!”. I find an album I like and spend a couple weeks with it, then find something new. I go into my backlog a lot.

I buy music (mostly on Bandcamp) so that works for me. Cheaper than a subscription,.and now I have a library.