Be it a personality quirk, something they’re wearing, or just the way they look. What makes them instantly hot?
It used to be a pulse, but at my age I can’t be so picky.
Feels like digging up corpses is something you’d need youth for
Just need a job as a mortician, or become friends with a mortician who has questionable morals and needs money.
Sure, but how many of them do you bring?
If you can get a youth to dig corpses up for you, I think you’ve negated the need for the corpses in the first place
No accounting for taste
I’m attracted to women with a more traditionally masculine personality or presentation. The helpers/protectors. Or non-binary. Bonus points if their whole Look is to deliberately intimidate strangers.
TL;DR image basically this but in all black.
Is this what’s known as mommy issues?
Not in my case my family was good I’m just born fucked up.
Aside from all the things that are instant turn-offs…
Being hopeful.
Also seem to get drawn to BPD- That they give a shit about other people, and contribute in some way to their community/society.
- Capacity for/evidence of personal growth. This one’s not always easy to see, but it’s amazing when you do.
A nice, plump dumper.
A good wink. A guy can be medium attractive or not my type, but if they make a little joke and then give me individually a subtle wink, I’m smitten.
Not talking about a compliment followed by a wink. A joke, and then they let me in on it with them with a wink.
How do you feel if someone who is not medium attractive winks at you?
Or if they just say something weird, like a joke you don’t appreciate, and wink at you?
I guess there has to be some kind of established not-a-creepy-stranger before risking a wink becomes appropriate.
Physically unattractive, but a good wink would still pique my interest, but it’s never happened to me. Winking is kind of rare. It’s like proof that they’re fast, clever, and confident, and that they desire a rapport with me.
Yes, the wink has to be paired with something clever, or wise, or nice. Some kind of friendly banter. You’d have to be already attractive to wink out of the blue, but if you’re already attractive and you wink, I’d probably like that too. It’s conveying interest. It’s conspiratorial and playful.
I am the total opposite, if you wink at me I’m going to be wholly creeped out.
Ô-Ô
In love yet?
Yes, but not with them eyes
that’s my girl!
I’m with you there. Winking is very creepy indeed to me.
It is confidence. It is always always always confidence. Close the thread there’s your answer for everything.
But then you run into the dunning kruger effect. Way too many assholes and idiots with obscene amounts of it
Being my wife
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I also choose this guy’s wife.
I choose this guy’s wife’s husband.
Assuming she’s married to a dude.
happiness
I’m going to be so shallow as to claim that if they look attractive, I find that instantly hot.
i like ‘em short of breath CUZ THEY GOT THAT ASS MA
Oh, compatible sense of dad jokes is a good one.
Their taste in music. There aren’t enough metal heads in my life.
Unapologetic intellectual curiosity! I absolutely love being around people who love learning new things and who get excited to find out more when they discover a new topic.
It’s one of the first qualities that really stood out when I first met my husband - in a University lecture with 1000 people, he just nonchalantly sat down in the frontmost row because that’s where he could hear the professor the best and ask questions. No shyness or awkwardness about it, which I found incredibly inspiring for some reason! I usually hid in one of the back rows because I was massively overthinking everything and afraid that the professor might call me out when he sees me not paying attention.Unfortunately, I seem to favor the neurotic. It’s not a thing I can control. I know damn well not to act on it, but attraction/infatuation can be a bastard sometimes. On the flip side, on the not-instant side of things, plenty of togetherness and shows of affection and tenderness can also call forth attraction over time.
In my experience the greater the emotional challenges the person has to face, the more amazing they are at sex
Idk man, got called a rapist when she previously consented.
Ouch!
okay that’s … abusive (on her part)
and definitely never bed an abuser.
I guess the trick is finding the right kind and level of emotional issues
Sudden mental changes in a person is risky.
That’s not how it works
By reading the other comments I’d say you might be wrong
TBF to the guy, I never believed in instant love either for the longest time. Then a couple really shitty things happened, and I was pretty much left with zero emotional anchors. Then attraction/infatuation suddenly went wild, and I was so not ready to cope with it. Maybe that dude is just not there yet for one reason or another. It’s hard to believe in an experience you haven’t had yet.
I believe he’s taking the question literally, as op asking for some universal truth instead of what each one of us finds personally irresistible.
I mean, that seems like a pretty dumb conclusion for him to jump to, but yeah, it could be the case I suppose.
Doesn’t have to be the same attribute for everybody, but most people will find at least one thing universally attractive.
(Or two. Booooobies…)
Integrity
